Ask Alison: ‘I Got With My Mother-in-law After the Way She Criticized Me This Christmas. How can I ask my husband to stand before him and take my side?

Q: The craziest Christmas I’ve had with my mother-in-law. We had my husband’s parents and brothers with us for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, and they not only commented on how I raise my kids and how my tree was “too stylish but not too festive”. Looks like he makes his own stuffing, pudding and gravy, though I made it clear that I don’t need anything.

And before you say she’s trying to help, she’s just brought enough for herself and her husband because he “can only eat food with good ingredients”. My husband thinks the whole thing is hilarious, as does his brother, and in a way, I agree. I benefit a lot from telling my friends about him, but it’s getting to the level where I can’t be in the same room as him. How can I get my husband to stop treating my parents as the way I spend the holidays and the decision to stand up for me?