‘My whole life fell apart’ – Mother makes huge difference for daughters after family heartbreak

Birmingham mother Lucy Cole lost both her parents, separated from her husband and all had to leave the house within a year.

Her two daughters aged 11 and six were greatly affected, causing the youngest to suffer from OCD and anxiety and the other to suppress her emotions.

Lucy decides to take action by retraining as a grief and life coach so she can help her family and others.

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Realizing that there are too few inspirational role models for young girls, she wrote a book and a magazine in which a group of characters learned to overcome issues, conquer their fears, and be brave. And now she is running wellbeing workshops in schools based on her experiences.

“In 2015 I lost my parents within a few weeks of each other and then separated with my husband,” said Lucy from Streetly, who has daughters Sienna, now 17, and Eva, 12.

“It felt like my whole life was torn apart. I left the matrimonial home and became very depressed. My daughters lost their grandparents and their uncles and their parents separated. This gave them extreme sadness at times. and feel anxious.

“But my girls talk to me. I realized that many kids don’t know how to express their feelings or are afraid to talk about their feelings if they’re judged or their friends laugh at them.”

Sienna and Eva with their mother Lucy

Children’s mental health is an issue that is constantly being discussed as a result of concerns about the negative impact of the pandemic on young people.

“Children’s lives feel very volatile at the moment,” said Lucy, who is trained in grief counseling and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP).

“They don’t know whether they will be in school or not, they may have lost loved ones and are worried that this might happen. We are living in volatile times and I think that is frightening for anyone, But especially for children.It is cause for great concern.

“And it’s more than ever, especially because of social media with all its filtered photos, all the ‘perfect life’ photos that say ‘look at me and what am I doing’.

“When my girls go out, I constantly see them taking pictures on their phones. I tell them to just put down your phone and have a good time.”

Lucy’s book Faith and the Fearstone is targeted at children ages 7-11, as Lucy says this is when children begin to make decisions that will stick with them through their teen years and adulthood.

Her characters are deliberately flawed to make them more realistic than traditional heroines. In the story, they go on adventures to the island of Doom, helping each other deal with daily issues and learning how to overcome problems, conquer fear, and be brave.

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Lucy said, “I noticed that there were very few inspirational role models for my girls, and they had to make the leap from animated princesses to the teens of sane-cracking live action America for which they seem too young.” Property company with her ex-husband.

“Young children, both girls and boys, from the young age of six can struggle with daily issues and the pressures of school, home and forming friendships and hopefully my book will help children understand their feelings and their mental health.” to help manage.”

“Through self-learning, and being provided with the right tools and techniques, children can change their behavior patterns, feelings and emotions.

“That’s why Faith and Fearstone was developed, because I wanted to help my daughters and other children understand and talk about the feelings they were experiencing.”

Lucy is also starting to run wellbeing workshops in schools, where she will lead assemblies, talk about feelings, and encourage creative writing and group work on emotions.

Lucy, who opened her own clinic on Anchorage Road in Sutton Coldfield called Love Life Coaching, said, “It’s about opening up to them about their fears, anxieties, and feelings, not being afraid to say what’s happening at home. ”

“All my characters have flaws, which I think is really important. Today everything has to be perfect, it is necessary to have perfect look, perfect photo, perfect life. This is not reality. All my characters come from different backgrounds and they all have problems in their families, because that’s life.

“It’s about letting them know that it’s okay not to be right, it’s okay to be afraid.”

Lucy also publishes a magazine for young girls, with a space to write down goals, fears, and feelings, along with exercise and healthy eating.

Lucy continued: “No one’s life is perfect and what matters is how we deal with these imperfections in life. It is very important that this is instilled in children’s minds from an early age so that schools By going in and offering these workshops we can equip our kids with the tools they need.

“My goal is to help children recognize mental health at an early age and instill positive thoughts and techniques for overcoming their fears, building confidence, and helping them reach their full potential.

“I’m really excited to get kids talking and instilling this in them from an early age. KS2 is the formative years, what they do during this time stays with them for the rest of their lives.”

Learn more about Lucy’s books Here And order a copy from Amazon Here

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