“We can’t be what we want
If we stay what we are”
Max Dupree (1924-2017)
A new year begins, even if it is due to a change in the number on the calendar, has an early meaning. It’s like when we started a new notebook in elementary school: we think we have a lot ahead, it’s clean, undefined, and so much more to do.
We’re not fooled though: We’re the same person on January 1 as on December 31st, but we like to think that, because it’s a change of year, there will be new things and there are many more to do.
And it is that at the beginning of the year it begins to change, to be better, to behave more effectively, to achieve better results. But to change we have to change our way of being, our behavior, our attitude, eliminate some evils, acquire new skills and abilities.
So how to change?
Here are some simple steps to take advantage of this process that, of course, requires intense, but reasoned, and intense use of effective willpower to know how to “hit the mark accurately.” .
key to change
One. Always keep the desired objectives in mind, focus on the goal. Think more about the objective (however far) rather than the obstacle (always immediate). Finally, if one enters a process of change, by abandoning comfort and habits, forcing himself against the grain in order to modify a behavior or acquire a virtue, it is because he understands that the effort is not worth it. Worth it. He is convinced that the reward for reaching the goal is worth the investment.
two. See yourself in a winning position. Something successful people have in common—athletes, actors, presenters, scientists, writers—is that they always see themselves as winners: achieving goals, crossing the finish line, getting applause, scrutinizing, closing the book; And they do it from the very beginning to the very beginning of the journey.
3. Step by step, step by step, step by step. Achieve small but significant victories, break down the problem: “eat an elephant.” My friend Jaime used to say that if you want to eat an elephant, it seems impossible, but if you consider it one “piece” at a time in hundreds of days (in thousands), it becomes possible. My English teacher, Martinez Lavin, taught us 10 new words per class – just 10 -. I explained to them, asked them at the beginning of the next session and at the end of the course we had an incomparable vocabulary of 800 words… step by step. Helps to make the process manageable. In order to achieve change, you have to feel comfortable with the rhythm and carry it without losing your way.
Four. Not only does the process matter, but a rhythm is also needed. a “time“, the Americans would say, a “rhythm” of advance is important, it should neither be too hasty nor too slow. At a good pace, without detours.
5. If it is wrong, it is corrected. If you fall, you get up; If it fails, it tries again. Adjusting and doing it in a timely manner avoids a strong deviation, which sometimes leads to a complete defeat. Sometimes it feels like a retreat is taking flight or simply embarking on a new and better path.
6. Seek effective support. The friend who knows our intentions, the one who supports us, who is probably fighting a similar battle (and here we are talking about the famous)Buddy system“That freely translated is nothing but the support of friends). Such a friend becomes a tremendous support when we encourage, ask for, advise, support. Remember that fear of change is the cousin of procrastination.
7. change, change Man is the only animal that has (and thus manifests) a great ability to change, to improve. We see this in Milton Friedman, the Nobel Prize in Economics. Who knew the son of an immigrant seamstress would be one of the most brilliant economists of the 20th century? We see it rightly in immigrants, in our countrymen who challenge enormous threats to change their way of life, risk their lives and then in most cases are exemplary citizens, honest workers who follow the law.
Sometimes one who wants to change finds himself between two currents, between two forces. The first that holds him back, that stabilizes him: it is his habits, his way of being that makes it difficult for him to change. The other force that calls on you, that encourages you to become better, to modify things (to change). At that point we must use the freedom to choose change, use intelligence to convince ourselves of the causes and benefits of change, and the willingness to force ourselves to do what we decide.
May 2022 be the year of changes, but not only at the macro level and in the country, but individually, individually. After all, all big change efforts begin with yourself.
Let us demand the freedom to choose, to be able to choose; Let’s take advantage of our intelligence to explain the reasons and benefits of changing ourselves and use our willingness to force ourselves to make the decisions we make…
Dean Professor of Business Policy Area (Strategy and Management) at the Pan-American Institute of Senior Business Management (IPADE).